While voluntary fear can become an educational tool, the dynamics between siblings provide another concrete example of managing emotional tension. Parenting experts highlight the crucial distinction between normal disputes and aggression that requires direct parental intervention. Jean-Philippe Geffriaud, a parenting consultant, explains that while conflicts are part of daily life and can teach children negotiation, certain limits must not be crossed. When one child systematically intimidates or threatens the other to get what they want, the interaction is no longer a simple disagreement but a form of abuse that must be stopped immediately. [1]
The consequences of continuous exposure to fear imposed by a sibling can be devastating for emotional development. The expert emphasizes that the victim often capitulates to avoid conflict, learning to suppress their own needs and emotions in favor of temporary “peace.” This asymmetric power dynamic does not allow for problem-solving; rather, it creates an insecure environment. Parental intervention is essential not only to protect the victim but also to understand the aggressor's motivations. Aggression may mask feelings of insecurity, lack of attention, or the need to be recognized within the family structure. [1]
The recommended approach combines firm boundary-setting with empathy and education. Parents are advised to intervene physically, if necessary, to restore safety, using short and clear messages such as “Stop, don’t push.” Overly moralizing during the skirmish should be avoided. Once the situation has calmed, it is crucial to listen to the victimized child without minimizing their experience and guide the aggressor toward making amends and finding constructive alternatives. Outside of conflicts, offering individual attention to each child helps reduce jealousy and strengthen emotional security. [1]
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